Celebrating #5

Somehow, my twins are turning 5.

Their birthday is not until the end of the month, but we decided to go ahead and have their party early to miss the Christmas/New Years craziness.

So glad Uncle Winston, Aunt Sarah, Uncle Trent, and Aunt Mimi came down for the day. Kate was very excited about her new sticker book! She loves these.



Because they share a birthday, I do request we sing Happy Birthday two times so Spencer and Kate can have their own song. Spencer, older by 2 minutes, goes first.






I also let them pick their own flavored of birthday cake for the first time. I figure my other children get to pick theirs, so why shouldn't the twins? (Now that they are old enough to have an opinion.) Spencer is so funny- he's very particular and specific. He requested a chocolate cake with white frosting and strawberries around the side. He also wanted blue words that said "Happy Birthday Spencer and Kate. I love you. Amen." (Yes, he said those exact words.) This is what I came up with for him.



Kate requested my pumpkin cupcakes with cinnamon cream cheese frosting. Can't say I blame her- they are my favorite too.


The party was simple - friends from the neighborhood and preschool, family, playtime, chick-fil-a tray and fruit, and birthday cake.

5 years since I first became a mommy...and now weeks from adding #5!


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This Week in iPhone Photos

Reading over old journals from the past year, I found this piece of truth.

This little man loves all things that go, and has become quite proficient at his Lego airplane building skills. 

Ella got her hair done (we have discovered an awesome talented affordable girl to come to our house) and I was trying to take pics of how cute it is. Spencer has been working on his photo bombing skills. 

One of my favorite kids-in-bed treats: oatmeal cookie ice cream sandwich from Jeni's. SNAP.

We hung out with some friends while their mom ran some errands and they have been here enough to know time at our house = a dance party. It was requested and adorable watching the 6 of them dance it out. 

This was all part of pretend play, but it was sweet nonetheless. A precious moment between sisters. 

You know how they say a boy's first love is his mama? Well, this is true for Spencer. He has decided he wants to marry me. This isn't the first time he has said that (he once told Stuart he would fight him for me but he loves any reason to wrestle) but this the first time he has planned in such detail. The night before, he told me we would have a "married party" the next day at 4:00. Then, when 4 rolled around he brought the play food downstairs, set up tables and decorations, requested music, and asked me to dance. Then he proceeded to refer to me as "Hey Wife." When I reminded him I was already married, he sighed heavily in exasperation and said,"I know. This is pretend!"

For a few weeks now she has been into talking about being a mom one day. That's all she wants to do. She even stuck a baby doll in her dress here, named Tessa. Other kids' names include Flower, Love, Jack, Junior, Sheena. She said,"I'm going to have lots of kids. Some will come from countries and some will come from my belly."

Morning snuggles on the couch. 

I swaddled Josiah up like a baby and here he is with his mom and dad. He loves a game where he can make baby sounds. 

That's our week! Things are definitely shifting as it gets harder and harder for me to do normal stuff. Five weeks or less to go before Baby Ben makes his arrival. I'm trying to bottle up these sweet and funny moments because it is easy for a pity party to sneak in. Being pregnant with other children is difficult. This might be baby #5 but it's the first time I have done that. You other mamas rock!!

Why Halloween Lasted Two Weeks

(Wrote this post a few weeks ago but never could get the pics to line up right with text.  That's why it's late. So maybe I should change the title to Why Halloween Lasted Four Weeks since that's what it took me to blog about it.)

It's officially November. Which in my mind kicks off Christmas season, but my husband is more of the "wait until the day after Thanksgiving" variety. Marriage is compromise. But I digress. It means Halloween is over. But this year, more than any other, I feel like it we have celebrated this holiday approximately nine zillion times.  Halloween with small kids is basically playing dress up and eating junky food. Which to my crew (and I'm sure to yours) is a summary of the best day ever.

So instead of doing a post for each event, I invite to this photo summary of "Why Halloween LastedTwo Weeks."

Right after Fall Break (in Florida) we took a little trip to a pumpkin patch. Aunt Sarah was still with us (that pic was on here - and it mysteriously disappeared) and we had fun with face painting, a hayride, pony rides (now my boys have officially ridden a horse more times than I have, because I never have), and I scared my kids pretty good in the corn maze.  But it was cold and the day before we were in 90 degree weather. *Sigh

Then we had a little neighborhood pumpkin party with fun Halloween food, costumes, and pumpkin panting. Spencer worked on his ninja kicking with his 9 year love interest.  (Seriously. He loves her. It scares me how charming and knowledgeable he is.  Supposedly he is going to marry her.)

We also trick-or-treated at the zoo.  Any excuse to wear costumes and get candy.

The day before Halloween my littles enjoyed Halloween storytime.

We carved our family pumpkins. Ella is basically making the best face ever here.

I went to the preschool Halloween party, which was a craft, pumpkin picking, and food.  I didn't get to go to Ella's school party because they limit the parents that come to the 4 volunteers.  

I had this genius idea at like 8 pm on Oct 30 to make a Halloween shirt.  My kids were distraught I did not have a costume, so this was my solution. They loved it, and I did too. The shirt was already in my closet.  

Reservoir Church (our church plant) hosted a block party on Halloween night to provide a place for food and rest during trick or treating.  We ended up serving about 200 people chili, popcorn, cotton candy, and lemonade and letting them know about Reservoir Church. Gave out all the food we had.  'Twas fun and very, very tiring.  (I also took our kids around trick or treating in the neighborhood.)

It was fun! 

Little by Little

I just love the image of victory God is setting up all through the pages of Deuteronomy. The promise of the land He has set aside for His people, if only Israel would be follow God's commands. He has great things in store for them, beyond what they could imagine for themselves. That same great promise is still available to those to us today who trust and know Jesus. But it is not just about obeying God's law, for in and of ourselves we can not do that. That is why the debt has been paid for us, the price our natural disobedience has cost. Jesus paid for it with His blood, that we might be reconciled with God and inherit His beautiful promises for eternity.

The Israelites have been told they will have to conquer some nations as they make their way to the Promised Land. But, just like we do every day, Israel, God's chosen people, doubt. They fear. And understandably so, in my opinion. They are walking purely by faith, into lands unknown, into trials that are frightening, and they are human. Deuteronomy 7:17 helps us see their fears expressed. "...you say in your heart, 'These nations are greater than I. How can I dispossess them?' " Moses has a solution for this fearful people.

REMEMBER.

"You shall not be afraid of them but you shall remember what the Lord your God did to Pharaoh and to all of Egypt, the great trials your eyes saw, the signs, the wonders, the mighty hand and the outstretched arm, by which the Lord your God brought you out. So will the Lord your God do to all the peoples of whom you are afraid." (v. 18-19)

Call to mind His wonders and signs. Remember how you have already seen the Lord work. Recall His power shown in your life.

"Remember my affliction and my wanderings, the wormwood and the gall! My soul continually remembers it and is bowed down within me. But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. 'The Lord is my portion,' says my soul, 'therefore I will hope in him.' The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him." (Lamentations 3:19-25)

Israel is challenged to not be afraid, for God is in their midst (Deut. 7:21). Right in the smack dab middle of them! This isn't just some God who sits on high laying down smackdowns but not really involved. No. Their God, and our God also, promises to "love you, bless you, and multiply you" (v.13) and will keep them with the covenant and steadfast love He swore to their fathers (v.12). He is right there with them. A great and awesome God!

And then, to further address their fear: "The Lord your God will clear away these nations little by little." (v. 22)

Oh how this speaks REAL LIFE to me.

I remember those things of which I have been afraid. I know the ones that I am afraid of now, that so quickly have the power to paralyze me. God does not just take those things away. He doesn't just NOT make us walk through those fires. Sometimes in His sovereignty and grace He does. But in that same sovereign grace, God often makes us face those big, strong, terrifying, looming nations head on. (Can I get an Amen here? Anyone know what I am talking about?) I have flat out walked through things that I said were among my biggest fears. Those fears that cripple us. He makes - allows - us to walk there.

But here is the hope, that little by little He will clear away those nations. I am walking there now. Making baby steps of progress through the wilderness, sometimes seeing God provide victory over another nation and then sometimes falling to my knees as I see another one ready to fight right in front of me, knowing that in my own strength I do not have the fight in me. But He has brought me to each place and I am instructed to take each step as they come, little by little. He surely can do big miracles but often, victory will come in small doses.

But God will give them over to you until they are destroyed (v.23)
He will give their kings into your hand (v.24)
No one will be able to stand against you (v. 24)

Victory is promised, and it is coming.

Loss

Ella had a milestone yesterday.

She attended her first "friend" birthday party.

We have had other birthday parties for friends...but those have all been family events. Like our whole family was invited. This was for a girl in her class, and it was at a roller skating rink. So we made a personalized water bottle, and I took her and she carried that gift right in! (As we left a very very sad Kate behind at home. It was a first for her too - watching her big sister go to a party without her.)

She did great. I was a *little* more involved than I imagined - I mean, she needed help skating and playing arcade games and all that jazz. But I helped her make her way through the social ropes and she was polite and kind and even attempted to laugh at herself when she fell down one million times. (Oh, skating.)

No, I didn't skate. If you know me from my youth, you may remember that I spent quite the few Saturday nights at ol' Champs Skating Rink. And quite a few dollars. And I had to call my parents at 12:00 to wake them up to remind them to pick us up at 12:30. And sometimes we got to go to Perkins Pancake house afterwards. But I digress. The party took me on a little trip down memory lane.

Anyway, a few of her friends from her class were there and one little girl just so nonchalantly asked me some adoption-related questions. While my six-and-a-half-month-pregnant self is trying to keep my kid from busting her hiney in the smack middle of this skating rink. "Are you her mom? Like were you her mom in Africa? So does she have 2 moms?"

Ugh. These questions are so, so hard.

I don't mind kids asking questions. I would rather a kid ask and know the truth than make assumptions and end up saying something unkind. But every time someone asks, and Ella is standing right there, I just wonder. I wonder if it burns in her heart as she remembers her first mama. The one that loved and cared for her the best way she knew how. I wonder if she misses her. I wonder if she longs for her. I wonder if she wants someone to ask or if she just wants to be the same as every other kid. I want to do right by her.

"I am her real mom." I said it about nine hundred times.

I want her, and the world, to know that a "real mom" is the one that kisses boo boos and cooks dinner at night and takes her to the doctor and sings the song and checks the homework folder. A real mom is the one who sits her booty on the steps when she is out of line and makes sure she brushes her teeth and listens when a kid is being mean at school. A real mom goes to the teacher conferences and shares funny stories about what she says. A real mom does not have to look the same or sound the same or even have the same color skin.

She has experienced so much loss. Just an innocent question from a curious six year old sobers me up and reminds of that in the middle of a skating rink with airbrushed graffiti on the walls. More loss than most of us will ever know in our entire lifetime.

I am still trying to figure out exactly what I want my answers to be to these questions. I am figuring that out by talking to her in the quiet and privacy of our own home, and I do not want to share that part of our conversation here. It is her story.

Questions are good. I would rather them come to just me but how do you do that when a kid is asking? I just do the best I can to be honest and truthful and respectful to Ella, who is always 3 inches away.

It never hurts to hear me claim her again. I am her real mom. Forever.


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Down to One

Spencer had a post-op appointment with his plastic surgeon (from surgery this summer) and he is 4 hours away. We decided to head up a day early to visit with some of our best friends that are fresh off the plane from bringing their precious girl home from the DRC and squeeze in other fun things.

It was just me and Spencer, since Stuart stayed home and worked from home and Ella had school. When you are one of four kids and you go on a trip with just mom, you get things that don't ever happen in real life. Here are some little things that were unique to our mommy-son adventure this weekend.

1. You get your own miniature cup of milk at Starbucks because Mommy feels confident enough to stop and meet a friend there and GO INSIDE. You also get a cake pop. Never would happen if all 4 kids were there.



2. When you take a bath before church (IN A BATHTUB ALONE) and you are cold afterwards, your Aunt Mimi volunteers to blow dry your hair.


3. You get the iPad. With headphones. Basically anytime you want because Mom is so strict with the one iPad the rest of your normal life because that always results in a fight.


4. You go to breakfast with Mom and Aunt Mimi and Mom lets you pick two goodies AND chocolate milk. Life is good.



5. You get to choose whether you want to go to your class or big church with Mommy and Aunt Mimi. Because the child:adult ratio is in the big people's favor.


6. You go to Dinosaur Train Live! with Mommy and two special friends and MOM BUYS YOU A LIGHT UP WAND (that proceeded to bust as soon as you accidentally dropped it on the ground. What the heck?! A little more durable, people.)


7. When you are super grumpy at a restaurant, your Uncle Winston fork feeds you because you are too pitiful to eat on your own. That's probably because you are so tired because your mom overestimated all the fun things you can do when there is only one of you. :)


8. At the doctor's office, mom spins you as much as you want in the doctor's chair while you wait.


9. You go to Target JUST to browse the toy aisle.


Other fun things not pictured that happen when you are one of four and then it's just one kid:
10. you share a bed with mom
11. you get a happy meal
12. you go to bed an hour late and mom is not frazzled
13. You have two pieces of Halloween candy at 8 am. (WHO AM I??)

It was fun to do some special things with him that we don't usually get to enjoy other times, and he kept saying, "I'm having fun with you Mommy!" And it was also sweet to hear him say, "I miss my friends," (meaning his family) and then see them run up and hug and be reunited after 2 days apart.

A fun trip, a good report from the surgeon, kicking mommy all night long, and traveling time zones while also do the time change equals this.



(P.S. Yes, that is a crib next to him. Bringing that back to set up for baby. The first thing we have remotely done to get ready for him, even though he is coming in less than 3 months and we have 2 holidays, an anniversary, and 2 kids' birthdays before he comes. Better get busy.)

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